Because when we become mums, the self care time is limited, we need to adjust to be able to keep ourselves sane, in every way. Whatever you loved to do before being a mum, you have to keep on doing it after, even if it is less or in a different way.
For example, in my case, I always loved dancing. And I still do, only because this is one of the things that keeps me deeply happy, no matter what I go through.
First, sit down and write about what you love and how you can fit it in your busy mum schedule. When you really want something, it is your duty to find the time for it. No excuses!
Keep yourself active. Always choose to walk instead of using the transports, ride your bike instead of driving, enrol in a weekly sport class of your choice, follow YouTubers and exercise from home. Physical activity makes you feel good physically and mentally.
Practice gratitude! Every morning when you wake up and every night when you go to bed, be thankful for what you have, even and especially if you have had a bad day or night. There is always something to be grateful for: being alive, breathing, having a roof over your head, having your children. I can guaranty you, gratitude will help you feel better.
Establish a plan of what you have to do for the day and set a time for each of these requirements: family time, work, hobby, cooking, cleaning etc... I recommend doing it the day before so you wake up knowing exactly what to do. I personally do not decide of the exact time for each of the tasks as I like to feel when I prefer to do it on the moment but I make sure that my list has been completed at the end of the day. If you can't always do everything, this is fine, don't blame yourself and do the rest the day after.
Which brings me to the next advice: be kind to yourself! If you have not reached a goal or accomplished a task, this is not the end of the world. Clap yourself for what you have achieved, even if it is only giving quality time to your children for that day or just cooked a nice and heathy meal. Some days are harder so be gentle with yourself and do not let the guilt take over.
Practice meditation, pray and breathe. Even if you are not a believer, talk to the Universe, the Energy, the Source, whatever you want to call it. Take a few minutes each day, in the transports or car, on your office chair, in your kitchen while cooking and focus on your breathing, close your eyes and breathe as deeply as you can. The more you do it, the longer your inhale and exhale will be and the better you will feel. As you do it, let your thoughts come and go and come back to your respiration whenever you lose focus.
Beware of your thoughts. Your thoughts really become your reality so be careful of what you think. Whenever a negative thought or bad scenario comes to your mind, replace it by a positive one. It can be hard at first but as everything else, the more you practice, the better you become.
Do not forget, do more of what makes you happy, focus on the good, be grateful, move your body and do not feel guilty for taking time for yourself. You deserve it and your family will be happier to have a happy mum, your children will take you as an example and follow you when they grow up.
And you, how do you keep yourself sane?
With love 💗